Husband pays tribute to Kelly after she loses cancer fight

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THE Selkirk mum, who completed a charity walk just weeks before, lost her fight against cancer last month.

Mum-of-one Kelly Grigor of Kingsland Avenue fought to the end said husband Paul and even managed to achieve her dream of going on a cruise. But five days after her return she was admitted to hospital for the last time in her four-year battle.

“Kelly was a very loving person. She was one of those people who never had a bad word to say about anybody – and I know everyone says that about someone who’s just died but Kelly genuinely was such a nice person: she would do anything for anyone. She was a great friend to many people. She was a very special person,” said Paul.

The 29-year-old was in the terminal stages of cancer when she completed the five kilometre Race for Life walk in Edinburgh with friends in May, raising more than £2,500 for Cancer Research UK.

“Unfortunately, after the race her health started to deteriorate,” said Paul.

But his wife of seven years rallied to go on a week’s Mediterranean cruise with friend Pam Barron. She had five days at home before needing medical care in hospital.

“We set little goals. She wanted to do the Race for Life and raise as much money as possible. After she achieved each little goal we would start on the next. She always wanted to go on a cruise but when she got back the choices were limited. She fought to the end. She never at any time thought this was it, she always had the belief she was going to get better. She used to hate being in the hospital,” said her husband who works for Scottish Borders Council in the roads planning department. “She never wanted to know how long she had or anything like that. Every time we had a knock back she was: ‘right, what can I do now, what other treatment is there?’

“She was always keen to try something else. She just wanted to keep fighting. She never wanted to admit that cancer was getting the better of her – I think if she admitted that then she wouldn’t be able to handle it, it was her way of dealing with it, keeping fighting it head on.”

One of Kelly’s greatest achievements was the couple’s son, said Paul: “We are both very proud of Lewis and for me he is a lasting memory of Kelly.”

The couple were childhood sweethearts, Kelly being 14 when she and Paul, then 18, started dating. They married seven years ago.

“I have never been an adult without her. She was just a huge part of my life. We were together for 15 years,” said Paul.

Kelly, who worked for the Royal Bank of Scotland in the town, found a lump in her breast four years ago and underwent a mastectomy and chemotherapy treatments in her battle against the disease.

More than 300 people went to the funeral service and, despite wet weather, most went on to the cemetery.

“I think that’s a great testament to the type of person Kelly was and I’d like to thank everyone who donated, raising £1,440.50 at her funeral which goes to the oncology fund at the Borders General Hospital,” said Paul.

As he spoke to The Wee Paper, son Lewis said: “You’ve still got me.”