The death of a loved one can be devastating.
Bereavement affects people in different ways. There’s no right or wrong way about the way to feel.
Talking and sharing your feelings with someone can help. Don’t go through this alone.
For some people, relying on family and friends is the best way to cope.
But if you don’t feel you can talk to them much (perhaps you aren’t close, or they’re grieving too), you can contact local bereavement services through your GP, local hospice, the national Cruse Bereavement Care Scotland helpline on 0845 600 2227 or one of their local centres. You can have access to a bereavement counsellor, even if the person you lost died a long time ago.
Anniversaries and special occasions can be hard.
Do whatever you need to do to get through the day.
This might be taking a day off work or doing something that reminds you of that person.
Each bereavement is unique, and you can’t tell how long it will last. In general, the death and the person might not constantly be at the forefront of your mind after around 18 months.
This period may be shorter or longer for some people, which is normal.
You might need help if:
* you can’t get out of bed
* you neglect yourself or your family – for example, you don’t eat properly
* you feel you can’t go on without the person you’ve lost
* the emotion is so intense it’s affecting the rest of your life – for example, you can’t face going to work or you’re taking your anger out on someone else.
These feelings are normal as long as they don’t last for a long time.
The time to get help depends on the person.
Bereavement counsellors offer pre-bereavement care, helping patients and their family cope with their feelings.